Fallen off the wagon?

I get afraid to ask the friends that have started this eating plan with me, how they are doing.  My fear? They will think I'm "keeping tabs" on them, or that I may scrutinize what or how they eat... And all I really want to know... when I ask... "How's it going" in reference to their food... is... are they satisfied? Are they making sure they aren't getting bored by eating the same things all the time, or are they just plain 'over it'?

Whatever their reason... I still have a goal and need to stay on plan for a variety of reasons.  Does having friends and family on the same plan make things easier? Hell yeah... but not everyone has the same weight loss needs nor desire to completely change their eating habits...

Have you fallen of the proverbial horse when it comes to what goes into your mouth?  Was Easter and all it's candy just too much for ya?  Has preparing and chopping and cooking your own food lost it's luster?  Have you started to resent eating your protein at lunch and then go to dinner with friends and family and resent that you can only have a salad?

If so... let me enlighten you for a bit...  You can eat whatever you like.  In whatever quantity you like.  In what ever form the food comes in.  Whatever time of day you like.  It's YOUR life.

I love you, and want the best for you.  If my way isn't your way... so be it.  I hope you can take what you've learned here, and apply it to your life someday, if not now.

THAT being said... I have a bone to pick...

When I read whining on other websites from people that "can't" stay on plan, or "see a cookie and just go berserk with need and want", or "I slipped up today... I ate a candy bar, then a soda, then a tray of cookies, then a bag of chips..." and they whine about weighing in and not losing any weight... I want to smack them on the head with a freaking hammer!  Really? What part of "cookies", "Candy bar", "soda" and "chips" didn't they understand in their weight gain?

Eating junk is EASY! It's everywhere.  It's socially acceptable. Junk food is associated with being "happy"... until one sees the scale.  Then... happy is nowhere to be found. Happy took a vacation.  Happy food sucks.

I "get" having cravings.  I understand being at a baseball game and wanting nothing more than to munch down on some nachos and wash it all down with a soda.  I GET IT!  I understand wanting a nice, hot cup of hot chocolate.
I totally see the need to feed when there is a buffet table full of delectable items so gorgeously and carefully decorated, one just can't resist... but RESIST I do.

Why?

Why don't I just "give in" this one time? Why not enjoy myself?  Why not eat what everyone else is eating?

Here's why.

Being 80 lbs thinner FEELS much better than ANY food WILL EVER taste.  AND... I am a bad food addict... and I know... like an alcoholic knows... that one day, or one meal, or one drink... won't be the last...
(I felt the same way after losing my first 12 lbs too... I just didnt want to gain it back...ever again!)

It's taken me 9 months to take off the weight... I venture to guess it would only take a  month or two to put it all back on.  It would be sooooooo easy. I still have about 100 lbs to go.  Why ruin everything now?

I've had to change my view of food.  I now eat to live... not live to eat.  So feeling a little self conscious about munching on dried pears instead of nachos at a baseball game is fine with me.  Ordering salad when out to dinner with friends and family if I've already eaten my protein for the day... is okay by me... Dinner with friends isn't about the food, it's about the company we keep.  Eating a turkey burger everyday for a week is great... I don't have to think about it, it tastes great, and it's all done in one day... blessing!

If you've gone off the deep end... and you don't know how to get back... do this...

Tomorrow morning, eat a bunch of fruit for breakfast.  Have some coffee... relax...

For lunch... eat a big salad with some chicken on it, or some fish... and all the fruit and veggies you can stuff in your face... eat and eat an eat...good food.

For dinner... eat some veggie soup, more fruit... or some fat free popcorn...

Then pat yourself on the back for getting back on plan... whatever plan is for you...

I know you are out there... you can do it... you can email me personally if you need help...

mamabella44@gmail.com

I'm here.